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Convert your negative energy!


How many times have you found yourself feeling frustrated at others for not having met your expectations? How many times have you been angry at the government, at the system, at your boss, at your friends for things they have done and wondered how you could change that.

The above lines pretty much describes my experiences. There are many occasions where I so much crave for control over others’ actions. Obviously, thats a foollish thought. One can control no one but his/her own thoughts. I have now realized that there is no point bickering about things and being angry – It only hampers my growth.

What I now do is to channelize the very same negative energies like aggression and anger into a positive energy. I believe that any kind of emotion, be it negative or positive – is a form of energy. Only difference is that negative emotions suck energy from you and positive energy spreads. So if I channelize the negative energy towards a positive thought, what happens is that I have transformed my negative energy and utilized it.

When I am using that very aggression towards a positive thought, by showing agression in getting that goal completed, or if I channelize that anger over the system and use that to make a difference in the community, I have outgrown my negative energies and at the same time I have tread on a positive path.

Anything and everything that we seek comes only with practice. So if we keep practicing this technique, we will be able to completely remove negativity from our lives.

Wish you a happy life.



See things through a child’s eyes!


Every person who is frustrated with the trials of life has a lot of questions, such as “Why me?”, “Why should all these problems find me?”, “What have I done wrong to be shown all the wrong sides of life?” I am sure you will agree with me on this.

Many a times I have found myself pondering why everyone of us seems to be caught in some kind of problem, stress or trouble; why almost everyone of us seem to think that we are being tested!

Once I was watching a 3 year old child playing. She was so lost in her own merry world she was not even aware who was watching her, not bothered what everyone else was doing, happy on her own. The infant was creating a tower from those plastic cubes and suddenly the tower collapsed. The child was disappointed but started all over again. And this went on and on and on.

At that age, for that kid all her worries were about exploring the things around her, playing with her toys and enjoying the time. While she was at her task, although there were many times when she couldn’t reach her goal, she would start all over again – all in fun and positive spirit.

Then it flashed to me. When we were  kids, even we  were like that child – lost in our own world and making merry even when the tower falls down. A child does not understand ego, a child does not understand attitude problems, a child is free from false pride. As the child grows and imbibes a little understanding of the world, he is no longer the same innocent child.

The transformation from child to a young adult and then again from adolescence to an adult brings a lot of exposure and during the process the adult who once was an innocent child has learnt/created the concept of jealousy, anger, hatred, irritability, comparison, ego, and various other negative attributes.

When this flashed to me, I realised that as a person’s understanding and maturity increases, his problems increase. Not because he is not capable of handling them, but because he has created them because of his very own maturity. If he retained the same innocence and the spirit when he was a child, a lot of his so called problems will not seem that way.

So what is required is a change in perspective. The very ingredient called maturity that supposedly enables us make decisions better, is an hindrance. We think a lot about what others will think about us.

And that’s where the problems start. When we complicate things for ourselves, we see only problems but forget that it was self-created in the first place. So what is required is to take a look at things like a child would and move on.

That little kid enlightened me by just being herself and I sure hope this piece was worth your time reading it.

God bless.

-Raj Bokdia

Purposeful Life – Happy Life


There have been moments when I would be deep in thought, pondering “What is the purpose of this life? What is the reason I am here?” and many more variations of such thoughts would meander in my mind. This was a long, long time ago when I was in my mid-teens.

Now in my late twenties, I have matured enough, and learned enough to realize that this life has been blessed on me to grow as a human as only a human can be. I had attended one of the discourses of a Jain monk in our community one day who gave an enlightening speech about the need to be spiritually connected.

From him I realized that being born as a human is the highest blessing a soul can get. Humans have the potential next to none other form of life in this entire universe. A man can become an angel or a devil, whichever he chooses.

As I have grown in age and maturity, I have learnt and still learning the true purpose of this human life. When I see so many people live a life less privileged, I realize that the purpose of life is to help others in need.

When I see the self inflicted sorrow in people’s lives, I realize that the purpose of this human life is not to stagnate but to grow in character, personality and integrity.

When I see the evil acts of people lost in greed, I realize that this life has been blessed on me to detach myself from materialism and reach for a higher goal: Nirvana!

In other words, I have now discovered that to traverse this  journey called life with the highest clarity and the most pure thoughts, to strive for growth and to reach the highest peaks of contentment  is the purpose of this life!

I look forward to your thoughts.

– Raj