Living in a country like India, where stark contrasts of affluence and poverty go hand in hand, poverty is a part of life – for the slum dwellers as well as the not so poor. But, it is very hard to imagine the life struggles of the poor people.
I am very thankful to have been showered with this life where I did not have to struggle at all. I am humbled at having been blessed with all things and beyond necessity.
I see people who barely scrape for every day living. For people who have the money life without the ipod, the blackberry or the latest Dell laptop seems hard to live. On the other hand, if these slum-dwellers get two full meals every day, it is more than heaven for them. For them seeing what they have not seen is heaven. For ones who have seen everything and don’t get to access it even for a few moments, life becomes hell.
I am here in now way pointing to any one in particular or judging any one. I am only self introspecting here. Obviously, if one has the means, there is nothing wrong in getting what one wants. At the end of the day, fulfilling one’s desire is the reason one works hard. What I am trying to get at is the need for the wealthy portion of the (world) population to show their gratitude not just by being thankful, but by getting involved in activities that help poor, by becoming a part of a charity or better still initiate their own cause to help the poor.
I in no way intend to sound preachy when I say this, but I think if one can be an active contributing part of the community, that’s the most productive gratitude one would pay.
What are your thoughts?
Appreciation. This one word doesn’t seem special when read but when applied in practice it tends to create magic, and literally so! This piece of word when turned to action, plays a great role in boosting a person’s confidence. So what’s in it for you? Well, you have made someone’s day, for starters. And that person will never forget you when your genuine compliment boosted his confidence and he accomplished something. More importantly, you bring a smile on someone’s face. That’s a great feeling, let me assure you.
So how easy is to compliment someone? It’s quite simple, but one has to practice this to be good at it. Compliment your friend about the red dress she is wearing, appreciate your kid’s gesture of being helpful to a stranger, tell your wife how beautiful she is; be it any occasion or any person, the common thread is to be genuine. Because unless it is genuine, a compliment is not effective.
Another factor that increases the impact of your compliment is when you do it immediately after an action. If your appreciation comes too late, the effect is lesser than if it was done as soon as the action or task was accomplished.
My dad is a great inspiration for me in life: and when it comes to appreciation he is as prompt and as effective as one can be. It is from him that I learnt that appreciation builds not just one’s confidence but it also increases the person’s enthusiasm to work even more harder and efficiently. A simple appreciation builds not just helps the receiver’s personality but it also builds relationships.
If anyone helps you in any which way, do not forget to recognize his help and thank him. If someone is looking good, give her a compliment – it will boost her enthusiasm and builds positivity. The next time you find your kid help an elderly, appreciate his gesture so that he knows this is a good thing and he can build on this and grow into a helping person.
Appreciation should not be only for deeds done for you or for any help done to you. Selfless appreciation is the greates vitamin for one’s personality that can be. It helps bringing out the best in a person even more vividly.
So go on and make someone’s day!