Monthly Archives: March 2009

Be grateful by being a contributor


Living in a country like India, where stark contrasts of affluence and poverty go hand in hand, poverty is a part of life – for the slum dwellers as well as the not so poor. But, it is very hard to imagine the life struggles of the poor people.

I am very thankful to have been showered with this life where I did not have to struggle at all. I am humbled at having been blessed with all things and beyond necessity.

I see people who barely scrape for every day living. For people who have the money life without the ipod, the blackberry or the latest Dell laptop seems hard to live. On the other hand, if these slum-dwellers get two full meals every day, it is more than heaven for them. For them seeing what they have not seen is heaven. For ones who have seen everything and don’t get to access it even for a few moments, life becomes hell.

I am here in now way pointing to any one in particular or judging any one. I am only self introspecting here. Obviously, if one has the means, there is nothing wrong in getting what one wants. At the end of the day, fulfilling one’s desire is the reason one works hard. What I am trying to get at is the need for the wealthy portion of the (world) population to show their gratitude not just by being thankful, but by getting involved in activities that help poor, by becoming a part of a charity or better still initiate their own cause to help the poor.

I in no way intend to sound preachy when I say this, but I think if one can be an active contributing part of the community, that’s the most productive gratitude one would pay.

What are your thoughts?



Convert your negative energy!


How many times have you found yourself feeling frustrated at others for not having met your expectations? How many times have you been angry at the government, at the system, at your boss, at your friends for things they have done and wondered how you could change that.

The above lines pretty much describes my experiences. There are many occasions where I so much crave for control over others’ actions. Obviously, thats a foollish thought. One can control no one but his/her own thoughts. I have now realized that there is no point bickering about things and being angry – It only hampers my growth.

What I now do is to channelize the very same negative energies like aggression and anger into a positive energy. I believe that any kind of emotion, be it negative or positive – is a form of energy. Only difference is that negative emotions suck energy from you and positive energy spreads. So if I channelize the negative energy towards a positive thought, what happens is that I have transformed my negative energy and utilized it.

When I am using that very aggression towards a positive thought, by showing agression in getting that goal completed, or if I channelize that anger over the system and use that to make a difference in the community, I have outgrown my negative energies and at the same time I have tread on a positive path.

Anything and everything that we seek comes only with practice. So if we keep practicing this technique, we will be able to completely remove negativity from our lives.

Wish you a happy life.


Indulge in a random act of kindness


Have you indulged yourself in a random act of kindness lately? Try it and you will experience something that cannot be explained in words. But, I will make an attempt to show you what’s involved.

The first and foremost thing to keep in mind is that you are not doing just for the sake of it, but with a genuine desire to help someone in need. It can be anything, like helping a blind/elderly person cross the road, offering alms, or monetarily supporting a young person who cannot afford the fees to study. The underlying thought should be one of being genuinely of help to the ones who are really in need.

The result of helping a person in kind or helping a person who cannot give you back anything in return, is the feeling that you have made a difference in someone’s life, may it be even for a moment. What it does to your confidence and your self esteem can only be felt. You feel good about yourself, you feel accomplished.

A voluntary act of kindness is the best way to boost one’s confidence and self esteem. Not only that, you also get clarity. If one makes a habit of doing such acts, it becomes a part of their character and it molds the person into a better individual. Of course, by this in no way I mean to say that indulge in kindness with a selfish motive. But this is a great place to start. And when it becomes a habit, all the better.

Do let me know of your experience once you try this.



Remove anger, Improve the quality of life!


Everyone of us is aware of the fact that anger is not good for our physical as well as mental health. We are also aware that the consequence of an angry reaction is not positive. Yet, we choose to react angrily in a situation that either provokes us or we are not happy with.

Everyone of us faces some situation or another on a day to day basis, where we are provoked and as a reaction, we choose to become angry at the person or situation. Angry or Irritated reaction tends to come naturally in situations where one has no control over. And the situation does not necessarily have to be extreme. Of course, there are situations where it looks justified.

The truth is that, however justified we may feel, anger does no good to the person venting it as well as the person receiving it. It instead only worsens the situation. Not convinced?

Jog your memory and picture any recent situation where you reacted angrily. Try to recollect the reaction of the person you were angry with. What was the outcome? Was the purpose solved? Did the situation get sorted after your angry reaction. In all probability, the answer would be in the negative.

Here’s why. The simple fact remains that even though you may be right, no body – yes, no body likes being yelled at, even if he is completely in the wrong.The consequence of an angry reaction is contrary to what you may expect. It in all probability will only worsen the situation.

When one is in anger, the person does not have control over his thoughts and he may unknowingly hurt the other person’s feelings. Further, the person facing the heat will never listen and accept an angry reaction. He will either deny the situation or completely ignore what you have to say. So what’s the point of all this? You have ended up wasting your energy, increased your blood pressure and heart rate, you have just spoiled your mood, and yet you are in no control of the situation. And yet, the situation has not improved any bit. If on the other hand, if the reaction would have been softer and one of understanding, there definitely could have been some resolution, you definitely would have seen some cooperation from the other person.

On a daily basis, I come across situations where I naturally react in anger. This was the situation when I was not as enlightened. Now with experience, I understand that if I show anger it is of no purpose, in fact, in all probability it only affects me – my health and my thoughts. So, now I choose to react either politely or not react at all. I choose the latter option with strangers, with people who I don’t know. For example, when I am driving and I see an obvious obstruction, I just calm myself and show him a stern face. When I am in a queue and see a person barging in, I just sternly say ask him to follow the queue. And when it comes to near and dear ones, friends or people who I know well, I side step anger by reacting in a polite manner and patiently explaining them the situation. This seems to work wonders, trust me.

I have found the key to peace of mind and good health. Try what I do and so will you.

Wish you a happy life…