The definition of love seems to differ from person to person, depending on their experiences. What meaning the word “love” carries for me, could in all probabilities differ from what it means for you. So the reality of love is that it does not carry the same meaning for any 2 persons.
Similarly, the way I express love also could be different from the way you would. So when two people for who the definition of love is not necessarily the same, meet, what is the result? Have you ever thought of it?
Well of course there are no clear answers. Again, the experiences differ from person to person. It is obvious, no two people could be the same. For some, love is felt only when the other person expresses, and for some love is when they express it. The problem occurs when the person expects his partner to express their love the way they want. Well nothing wrong so far. But the partner is no God to know everything you expect without you communicating about it. Unless you express it, how would he/she know it? That is the crux of the issue.
Does not matter if the way you feel love is different from the way your partner feels. What matters is that you understand each other. This is one important aspect in any relationship. It equally applies to siblings, mother-son and even between friends. After all, when you understand the other person and know how he or she is, you will know what to expect and how to handle it. And when you are prepared for it, then nothing can come in between. That is the reality of love!!!
-Wishing you a love-filled day!
Raj
A very simply written explanation to the complex aspects of ‘LOVE’.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think , effective communication is the key to any successful relationship. Having said that, I meant, expression in a language that can be perceived by the other without any complications.This also involves sensitivity and patience to speak and listen.
you’re absolutely right – well understanding in a relationship comes only with communication. so i don’t deny that at all. understanding = communication.
Raj, there is a great book that digs much deeper into the truth of your post – it is called “The Five Love Languages” and it talks about the 5 primary methods that we all experience love. If I remember correctly they are…: Quality time, Acts of Service, Gifts, Physical Touch, and …oh bogus, I can’t remember the last one.
But the idea is that we all have a primary love language and it will fill up our ‘love bank’ when we have someone express their love for us in our own love language.
It also means that we need to learn the love language of those we care about so that we can share with them, in a way they understand, that we love them.
Blessings and Peace.
-Will
Hey will – thanks for your thoughts and comments. I agree with the point about learning the other’s love language, which comes with unconditional love I believe.
Cheers
Raj
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love is a sweet dream comes true when u love sm1 who also loves u……………and ya every relationship requires understanding. there should be a good understanding between the 2 who r in love.